Today I want to share a little about these two concepts, shame and guilt. And if I talk about both at the same time, it’s because they are commonly linked. Many times we feel guilty when we take some actions that others judge as wrong, and when we accept that opinion of others about our person, it makes us feel ashamed of who we are. And it is very important to break this down very finely and understand that in both cases we are giving others control to put value on who we are. If we are going to take an action that we know is good for our lives, we cannot expect that everyone will receive it well, on the contrary, it is normal to expect to be judged.

When I worked as a waitress in a restaurant, I was barely 16 or 17 years old. I remember a client who always sat in my section, he was usually accompanied by his wife, this was an older gentleman, maybe between 60 and 70 years old, and always before giving me the tip, he would ask me the same question, what is your worth? I would smile at him, take my tip, and continue with my day. Although it seemed that I never gave it importance, this is one of the experiences that I remember most clearly from my time in that restaurant. I still remember his wife’s reaction every time, asking him not to bother me. Maybe at that time I didn’t have the answer to his question, but if I had him in front of me, today I would give it to him with pleasure, my value is the blood that Christ shed for me. Yes, all is his, including myself. Only he can judge me, my value is in him. My happiness no longer depends on the value that others put on me but I will gladly take their tips!

Here I share photos of the details of our little princess Valentina’s 3rd birthday! When I thought of her name, I always told her, since she was in my womb- you are brave, the bravest of all, and yes she is. She has a spirit of strength and joy, she lives very intensely, I learn from her every day.

Mark 9:43